Sporadic Update
There have been so many things I wanted to blog about, but life without an always-on Internet (or simply one that works at home) has made me lose to many thoughts that would otherwise have intrigued you to no end. I’m currently sitting at a cafe that has its own Internet terminals. I’ve never liked coffee, prefering tea anyday, and the caffeine’s giving me delusions that my lack of updates here have changed the blogging world in some way, or affected your reading / surfing pleasure to a great degree. Of course it takes my healing factor a while to kick in and realise that the world goes on with or without me, despite my great need to hammer away at a keyboard into the vast vacumn of cyberspace for a good half-hour a day.
I’m still in the process of looking for a job, though listening to news on the streets leaves me in a state of dismay sometimes. Things don’t look good at all here, and I have friends that have remained unemployed for the better part of a year. With a wedding, a new house and renovations to look forward to, I realise that the girl I’m marrying has staked her entire life’s fortune on my ability to find work in the near future. So if you’re wondering how I’m pulling all this off, here’s the lowdown: I’m living off my fiancé. She’s pretty much blowing her entire savings on the wedding, the downpayment on the house and the renovations (if we’ve anything left). My parents are helping out wherever they can, but they’ve two more daughters still in school.
I’m not proud of being a sponge. (I can hear Faith insisting loudly that I’m not). If things went the way I wanted, I’d have the high-paying job and would be footing the bills all out of my own pocket. Like any ego-laden guy, I’d want nothing more than to take care of my lady. But life is never what we plan or what we expect. It’s not easy to hear the side-comments of “he doesn’t have any money” or “she’s paying for it all”, but circumstances are such that these are things I’ll just have to let bounce off a thickened skin.
No, she’s not pregnant. Truth be told, we’ve never even engaged in pregnancy-inducing activities. That’s for after marriage, and I want to tell my children the same. We’re getting married so “soon” because we’re not young anymore and we want a little together-time before having children.
I’ll admit that marriage is a little scary. Since I turned eleven and fell head-over-heels for her, I’ve had the path mentally mapped out. But the end of the path has always been marriage. Now with so many things like job-searching, money-making etc. thrown in, the future seems so blurred compared the clarity and resolve I had bringing this marriage to fruition. What is ahead lies in a shroud, and it has made us both more dependent on God for direction.
Right now I’m looking for a cellphone because my dad uses the home phone for his home-business. If my potential employers do decide to contact me, the home phone is probably the most impregnable route of communication. I only hope my small savings hold out till I find a job.
What kind of job? I hope to do some writing and web-design. Though I’m perfectly at home doing SQL and database stuff, it is not where I see myself spending my days and nights. So if you’re a journalist who knows of a job opening at a newspaper for a writer or a web-designer (I’d even do maintenance), email me.
If you’ve been reading me you know what I’m about. If you have a shoe that fits, throw it this way.
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WE can never run away from the social stigma, can we?
Lucian - you should write in to publications and show them your portfolio/resume. Have you considered photography services too? :)
Having worked at a newspaper as a web designer and writer before, I must say the industry is pretty volatile. And call me cynical but I think web designers get axed much more easily than programmers, who usually get paid more as well.
I'll let you know if I hear of any freelance opportunities.
Whatever the case, God will find a way :)
You are someone whom i think possesses intelligence and ability..so a job is not too far away..just keep on looking..if really that bad..how about try approaching recruitment agency?hope it helps..and lastly hope you and Faith have a great future together!:)
Hey, yeah, how about going into photograpghy, even if it's temporary?! You're so good at it,and it seems you have a great eye for composition etc.
I'll definitely be praying for you that something will come up for you soon! =)
Agree with going into photography, or at least sell some of your photos. I will help you look out for jobs. =)
Just dwell in the fact that you have someone for you and with you. Some of us others arent that lucky :P But then we have got more time than old folk like you ;)
Funny how age (and maturity) seems to make the future so much less uncertain. Don't worry you will be just fine! In the end things will work out. And ignore the people who say those things (my cousin is getting married to someone in your situation) they just dont know you well enough. And the opinions of people who dont know you dont matter. *pats you on back* And dont feel as if you are a sponge (btw the feeling that you should pay for everything as a guy is sexist). It doesnt matter who pays for whatever as long as it is grudgeless and done. And I KNOW that faith doesnt mind! So stop worrying
Cant help you on the job market...maybe in 4 years when i graduate college? Ha ha...you should have a job by then anyways. Good luck though!
The job market is real bad for everybody. Read that the next wave after biotech will be the creative industries. This is wht MITA will be focusing on. Am sure you will ride this wave when the timing is right.
You could do the Wednesday job I bitch about all the time - after I leave (in three weeks). So you KNOW it'll be a great freelance gig. For all you know, they may find the budget for it.
(Unless you want to apply for my soon-to-be-former full-time gig - e-mail me if you do.)
don't worry about what others may say - and don't let the ego get in the way of things and what you have - a wonderful, God-given, relationship.
all the best to the job hunt, will keep a lookout for you.
take care!
things will fall in place for you. that i am very sure of. :)
"No, she's not pregnant."
Isn't it funny how we have to put in such disclaimers when we get married "too early", meaning, we don't have the prerequisites of money, station in life, age...
I faced that when Adrian and I got married back in 2001, snide remarks and pointed stares at my (naturally plump) belly. Well it's been 2 years and we have 7 cats and no babies, so, they can go and suck it!
If you need a contractor I know a good one, and we've also built up a small database of where to find the cheapest things, like bathroom fixtures. You and Faith are also welcome to visit our home, which is 1 1/2 years old now and ask any questions you might have on renovations etc. If you want to, just drop me an email :)
Well, you can always slowly renovate the house. Room by room? But I think you have to do flooring and painting first - the rest can always come later. :)
use your powerful writing skills and sing your own praises in the resume, make the employers look forward to seeing you, brag during the interview and you'll land a job in no time! at least, that's what me and my friends did two months ago, and we've got jobs even before graduation.