You know you’re a little too tired when you find yourself putting all sorts of weird things in the fridge, and leaving what should have been put in outside.
I need some advice. Anne’s doing ok, I guess. She’s hungry almost all the time, and insists on sleeping right after feeding, pressed up against Faith. We think she just enjoys having a warm body to cozy up to. If we make this a habit, we’re kinda afraid we’ll have to have her sleeping in our bed till she’s 60. We’re not sure if we’re spoiling her and placing ourselves in a precarious position of never ever having space to ourselves.
Or would it be better to tolerate her crying and just leave her in her cot? Didn’t think we’d come to crossroads and tradeoffs so quickly, but she’s learning the rules of the game fast, and especially how to beat them.
It really depends which style of parenting you agree with more - attachment parenting (a concept popularised by Dr Sears) versus more traditional notions such as crying-it-out (aka Ferberising). Lots of information online.
My 3yo has slept in our bed with us since she was born and still does. Not that that’s something you might want to try since three is a bit of a crowd. But I don’t think you are spoiling her by letting her be close to her mother - it’s natural for her to want to have close contact with her parents to feel loved and secure. I don’t think it’s possible to spoil a newborn, whose only instinct is to survive by asking for her most basic needs to be fulfilled.
Good luck!
she is three days old…
Aww c’mon…just spoil her a little..it’s her first few days in this big big world…she needs all the reassurance she can get =) Anyway, congrats to u and Faith on the new addition…she must be the cutest thing.
hey, just wanna congratulate you for your promotion on being a Dad now.
I dunno, I kinda regret not spoiling my kids enough when they were less than a year old…
Just tell yourself this little one is juz learning as much as you two are! or rather even more stress up than both of you. probably u might feel better this way. At least dat mindset kept my sanity till now after almost 10 mths :) And hv u ever heard that a newborn drinks 24hr if they are on the breast?! its true. dun worry, it’ll get better :)
its sooo amazing!!! one moment and the next ya two are parents…i know i see faith pregnant every wk…but it suddenly hit me just like that— ure parents!!!!!! oh my…!!!!! anyway i’m no help with baby advice…lol.
As a midwife, my two cents is she is only three days old, so it’s very normal for her to be permanently camped on the breast if she is breastfed. Make sure yo burp her well, and at night, to help settle her, give her a nice warm bath about half an hour after she’s been fed, give her a nice massage with some lavender oil, if you wish and that should knock her out for a few hours. Just bear in mind that she’s been in a secure warm five star hotel for the last nine months and has just rudely been evicted, so it’s natural for her to feel lonely when she’s not snuggled up against someone, so spoiling her at this age is impossible!
Congratulations on Anne! Was just telling Lou how weird it is that my sis and your baby are born roughly 3 years apart but Anne’s her niece and of course Clarine’s my sister.. Do I make sense?
Warmest congratulations Lucian, on the safe arrival of Baby Anne into this world. :) We can’t wait to see pictures.
I think it’s safe to spoil your baby for a while first. Maybe when’s she’s older and beginning to comprehend things a little better, then you start reinforcing rules.
WOO HOO!!!! Who’s her daddy??!! Who’s her daddy??!!
uhm… pipes down somewhat
Looks like no basketball for awhile eh old friend.
congrats faith & family: the first couple of months will be tough, but it will get better. you can’t spoil her at this point. just make sure she is well fed, changed, burped, b4 she goes to sleep. and wrap her up so that she feels secure & warm. eventually, she won’t need to feed as much. God bless
Anne’s ok with sleeping on her own now, except for a four-hour stretch (approximately) where she’s wide awake at night and wants to be coddled. The four-hour stretch usually happens when we finally decide to call it a day, thinking we got outselves a lucky break.