We got married 4 years ago to the day. Some of you were there - even some whom I’ve never met but read this blog and managed to find someone who knew where the wedding was.
It seemed like the perfect ending to a beautiful story; childhood sweethearts who got together, weathered extended periods of being apart and finally getting married. I must admit that the desire to marry Faith was a large part of my life, and when we crossed that juncture there was this amazing feeling, that everything felt right. What has transpired then? What happens after happily ever after?
The last four years of being married has been a whirlwind of activity and we’ve been swept up in it. We got our own place, and the never-ending housework that entails. I’ve changed jobs and battled hyper-thyroidism. And we’ve been blessed to have had Anne in our lives the last 2 years.
What is probably regrettable is that we lost sight of the game plan.
When we got married, I chose the verse Colossians 1:18 for the theme of our wedding.
“that in all things He might have the preeminence.”
In the design of the wedding invitation I used a montage of the activities of daily living, found in the book of Ecclesiastes. We acknowledge that these things, like sowing and harvesting, constitute a large part of life, but we wanted all these to come under God’s own direction and leading. That in all of life, He might have the supremacy.
It’s been hard to remember that. Yes, there’ve been a lot of things to do and so on, but there’s a worldliness that has crept in. It’s taken four years, but I realise now that I cannot do this. I cannot be the spiritual head of my family.
The song of Keith Green, written to his son Josiah, goes,
Oh my son, I am only a brother
For a sister God gave me your mother
I realise now that I need to step aside. I need to stop leading and start following. I am not the breadwinner of the family, and should stop thinking that I need to provide “more”. Jesus provides everything, and Himself is everything that we need.
It’s tempting to sit down and draft a game plan on how we’re going to put God in the centre of our lives. But really, all we need to do is stop occupying the spot.
I am yours, Lord. We are all yours.
Hi kor and faith! Happy anniversary! This comment is typed using an iPhone at the apple store.
Hello kor!!! We are in the apple store in new York and we are using the hot new iPhone to send you a comment!!! Hot stuff. :)
Nice bit of advice there for anybody who has forgotten about God’s place in the family. Thanks for the reminder bro, and its always timely. I need to tell myself that too.
Hi Ching Han and Faith, Happy Anniversary, 2 days late. I was at a seminar the whole week and didnt get any access to any computer. Blessings to you both and the baby, and here’s to many more happy years ahead!
Happy Anniversary- still as thoughtful as ever. I completely identify with what you said, man. There’s a feeling of completeness & readiness to face the world together. (Still in Boston. Lobster season)
Hey Ken, hope you’re doing ok in Boston. Tell me if there’s anything I can do for your double eagles. :)
You’re absolutely right. Sometimes we get so focussed on the daily living that we lose sight of what life is.
Happy Anniversary. :) I still remember that day.
That’s awesome! Congratulations, happy anniversary, and great to see you continually growing in faith and with Faith!!!!! =)
Ching Han and Faith, Happy Anniversary! Two are better than one… you certainly complete each other. And what a couple and blessing you are.. to us, to all your loved ones, and what wonderful parents you are to precious Anne!