The Economics of Relationships

It is funny how lazy humans are. We naturally atrophy ourselves to the state of least resistance. We settle into our mundane routines because it requires the least effort from us. We seldom challenge the status quo, and allow ourselves to be controlled by external forces that in all honesty, aren't all that unmoveable.
I found this to be true when it comes to relationships as well.
I was picking Faith up from work today, and had told her on the phone not to be late because it was hard to find any parking where she worked. Traffic was less congested than usual and I arrived there sooner than I would have expected. I looked around. No sign of Faith. I drove round and round, passing the entrance of her workplace (where she was supposed to wait for me) over and over, each time getting more agitated than the last. Though my irritation didn't arise to the point of anger, I took special notice of my thoughts and feelings, and decided to trace its evolution.
Reminiscing back to the time when our relationship was still new, it seemed then that everything was rosy. Even if she were late for an appointment, I'd make up plausible excuses for her in my mind.
<blockquote><em>Maybe she was held up.</em>
<em>Maybe something happened.</em>
<em>I hope she's all right.</em></blockquote>
My thoughts now were drastically different. Rather than giving her the benefit of doubt, I found myself going "<em>here we go again</em>". It was neither constructive nor beneficial to our relationship. It is often these unspoken thoughts that devastate relationships the most. I consciously made it a point to revert back to the former train of thought.
This is my theory on relationship economics.
If two parties give each other the benefit of the doubt and are willing to love each other beyond what is just "fair and equitable", there is enough leeway for the occasional circumstance where one of us gets slightly less lovable.
<table width = "300" border = "1" align = "center"><td bgcolor = "#9999FF" width = "120" align = "center"><span class = "posts">Him</span></td><td width = "60" bgcolor = "#99FF66" align = "center"><span class = "posts">Leeway</span></td><td width = "120" bgcolor = "#FFFF00" align = "center"><span class = "posts">Her</span></td></table>
Then we get lazy after a while and realise that we don't really have to work that hard. So we move towards an equilibrium.
<table width = "300" border = "1" align = "center"><td bgcolor = "#9999FF" width = "150" align = "center"><span class = "posts">Him</span></td><td width = "150" bgcolor = "#FFFF00" align = "center"><span class = "posts">Her</span></td></table>
This model requires the minimum effort to maintain a relationship. It does not allow much room for error. In situations where one party grows a little less lovable (eg. PMS, jealousy etc), cries of "you're not being fair!" are often heard.
It soon atrophies to the third model, which results in a breakup.
<table width = "300" border = "1" align = "center"><td bgcolor = "#9999FF" width = "100" align = "center"><span class = "posts">Him</span></td><td width = "100" bgcolor = "#FFFFFF" align = "center"><span class = "posts">Distance</span></td><td width = "100" bgcolor = "#FFFF00" align = "center"><span class = "posts">Her</span></td></table>
That's my theory on the economics of relationships. I don't know if it makes much sense to you, but I'm gonna try to stay model number one as much as I can. I know how unlovable I can be at times.
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