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Paying the Rant

I'll say what every homemaker thinks at some point of every day: we ought to get paid for this.
Don't you find it odd that the hand that rocks the cradle rules the world, yet is rendered unable to feed itself? If bringing up your child is as noble a profession as people make it out to be, show us the money.
Governments that encourage child-bearing should go a step further than just tax breaks, they should make it a viable profession. Here in Singapore we have an entire generation brought up by underpaid domestic help from third-world countries. An entire generation of whom many have absolutely no memories of their parents being there when they lost their first tooth or had their first crush. It should be no wonder why there is no nationalistic loyalty to be found in our young. We are a people who do not know our own mothers.Yet it is not the fault of our parents, nor is it the fault of any singular government. It is plain and simple math that a dual-income family outearns a single-income one, tax breaks regardless. While for some it means the single-income family doesn't get the holiday home, or vacations in exotic countries, for the average family it boils down to more basic necessities.
Bringing up Anne by ourselves has always been in the picture. But to be honest, we fall within the realm of average income families, and that's where the choices get harder. We worry about saving for our retirement, our child's education, or even money to pay the day to day bills. It doesn't help that <a href="http://www.aia.com.sg/">AIA</a> ads keep rubbing in the bad what-if scenarios.
On top of that, the homemaker is often led to feel like the non-contributing member of the marriage union. I don't know about you guys, but now when I'm taking time off to look after Anne and people ask me what I do, I get that rather embarassing pang in my gut. I actually feel like I'm wasting my life looking after my own daughter. I <em>know</em> it's not so, but society values money-making activity more than shaping the life of our future generations.
Many homemakers I know have that air of resignation about them. It is as if they were made to settle for less than what they would have bargained for. There are times I feel myself falling into the very same abyss. My parents worked hard to provide me with a very substantial education and sometimes I feel like I would be failing them if I went the homemaking path. My gratitude toward them is so infinitely multiplied when the only feedback I receive is an SMS saying "you guys have done a great job with Anne". I am eternally grateful.
I think I have a partial solution for all of the world's homemaking problems.
I'll look after my kid, and you look after yours. But I'll bill your working spouse for my services and you bill mine. That way, we both have an income that does not come from our spouses (don't you hate having to ask for money). Looking after children just became a viable profession. This way we can do all the things we've always wanted. Surprise our spouses with an expensive gift without having to blow the surprise by asking them for money; have ownership over part of the finances because we now contribute.
The only problem is that we will all essentially be dual-income families earning the equivalent of a single income.
Tell me if you've a better solution.

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